Jake said that while he tells me sometimes (not frequently, but not infrequently either) how important it is that I support his decisions. Whenever he is stressed about something, he always asks if he has my support. Sometimes this is emotional, like when he was scared to leave his job to start his own company. Sometimes it is financial – now that he doesn’t make a salary, sometimes he can’t predict his income and isn’t sure he’ll get paid by a client in time to pay one of our bills. Whatever he asks for, I always give it, of course!

But…he says that I never really tell him that I need his support.

Which I don’t think is strictly true – I ask his advice about things all the time, or tell him that I need a hug after a rough day. When I moved to his city to live with him and had no job, I was a complete basket case and needed both financial and emotional support for about three months until I started working. But then, that was four years ago.

Lately, he’s right. I don’t really come to him for support very often (maybe a tenth as often as he comes to me). I have a job that I do well, where everyone loves me, and for that I receive a predictable paycheck and fantastic benefits. The woman who had my job before me had it over 30 years, so it’s a stable job as well. I have a budget that enables me to pay all my bills (though it’s a stretch sometime). Meanwhile, he is winding down his involvement with the startup that he left his job for and starting another (one of the partners in the first startup was too difficult to work with, but it was her company originally so it’s complicated). He is owed thousands of dollars in backpay that his clients either haven’t gotten around to giving him or are trying to get him to write off.

In short, he has taken a lot of risks in the past year, and I have been holding steady. Which was the agreement – that we both shouldn’t change our whole lives up at once, and that if there was something adventurous I wanted to do/change about my life, I could do so once he was steady-as-she-goes with his new business. But does this dynamic affect his perception of himself as a man and provider?

On the one hand, I feel kind of like it’s important for a woman to make her man feel needed. On the other hand, he is so busy/stressed with his new company that I would feel bad putting an emotional burden on him when it’s not even necessary. I honestly don’t have any stress in my life right now, and he has TONS of it. In fact, it’s so unequal that I feel guilty, like I can’t even mention how stable and happy everything is on my end. Plus, every time I have asked him recently to help me with something (usually a wedding-related task, these days), it ends up taking five times longer and being half as good than it would have if I’d just done it myself.

What’s a girl to do? Insight into the male psyche appreciated!

What I’ve found is that something has to happen in the relationship, basically a process that leads to a confrontation. I call this process a change agent. In a recent relationship, I had a girlfriend that was taking my for granted. I used this technique: I froze her out for a week, withheld contact and affection, and didn’t do anything generous. This caused a confrontation at the end of the week. After the confrontation, we had an exceptionally honest conversation, and after that I saw some real change. It should be noted that I rooted out some fears she had about our relationship, got her to verbalize my behaviors that were bothering her, and we both were able to compromise and implement some changes. It worked out well.

I think women understand this intuitively and use techniques like the above naturally. I call this “chick game.” This is why chicks will give you the cold shoulder or act like bitches, because it’s a process to get you to really consider what is wrong. I used to find this irritating but now I embrace it. I find it more effective to be able to play this game rather than make it go away. It’s a bad idea to rationalize and reason through all of your communications.

BTW, I call the one-week freeze-out technique above my Relationship Reset Technique, because you’re basically resetting the relationship to a balance point.

racter relationships. This is creating more opportunity and bringing a lot more love and value to my life. It’s presenting professional opportunities and options for growth. If you’re not already doing this, I recommend starting on this project now.

One of the sports clubs I belong to is filled with hundreds of high character people. This includes firefighters, law enforcement, ex-military, business owners, family men and women, and people from many walks of life. One pattern that sticks out from this tribe is that almost everyone is high character. Because it’s a sports club and we’re constantly on stage during competition, our character is revealed to each other. This makes it easy to identify. Being absorbed into this group I’ve noticed is improving my life and improving my happiness.

What really turned me onto this concept was when I worked out with an ex-Navy Seal about a year ago. The guy radiated charisma and it was painfully obvious that he was a man of unimpeachable character. Just being around the guy made me rethink my priorities and what it meant to be a solid dude. Since then I’ve been trying to be a better guy and surround myself with high character individuals.

Doc and I have both done online dated extensively and we finally got together this year to map out a system that works. This eBook is packed with best practices, tips, and tactics for helping you get the most out of Match.com dating.

Interested in learning more? Go to our eBook page to get the goods.

Step 1 – Embrace Your Inner Warrior

I’m going to interchange the term warrior and athlete here. We’re all born athletes and have the capacity for strength and endurance. It’s ridiculous to live a life without honoring your physical self and maximizing your body. Men especially are born warriors and need to act like it. Get your asses in the gym and get strong. Benefits: Looking great, health, longer life, great sex.

This the first thing a man should embrace.

“No citizen has a right to be an amateur in the matter of physical training…what a disgrace it is for a man to grow old without ever seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable.” – Socrates

 Step 2 – Get with the “In” Crowd

This starts in high school. Being part of the “in” crowd is important because it gives you opportunities. And let’s face it, the in crowd has more fun.

The easiest way to get in is to be good looking, rich, or cool. Barring those, I recommend being a sports star. Even being a star in a fringe sport (Lacrosse, rowing, whatever) is helpful. This gives you a solid social circle and gives you cache because you’re really good at something.

Besides opportunities, being in is good training for being socially attractive. Social attraction skills pay huge dividends for the rest of your life.

If you’re totally uncool in high school (I was) it gets much easier to get with an in crowd post-college. You simply have to have a good job, be cool, and be successful at a few things. Limitations like looks become less of a barrier.

Step 3 – Find 2-3 Things to be Badass At

At minimum, be awesome at one thing that you can spin into a career and make tons of money at, like business. My 3 things are technology, sports, and writing, not necessarily in that order. I need to follow my own advice and turn one of those into a super moneymaker, but I at least can always have a solid career in technology if I maintain the status quo.

Start on this one early, like in high school, and work on it hard in your 20′s. You want to be a badass at a couple of things by the time you’re 30. If you’re not, you’ll miss out on a ton of opportunities.

If you’re not a badass at a couple of things in our life, you’re not a real man. Get with the program.

Step 4 – Commit to Being Cool

It took me years to figure out what being cool even meant. I knew what it looked and sounded like, but I couldn’t figure out how to be cool. My proposed solution here is to read up on pickup arts and peripheral literature, work on your body language, dress well, be in shape physically, and converse with a lot of people while trying to be witty and cool. Pickup arts are all about becoming cool. It’s a long process and something all men should commit to.

My favorite cool television character is Roger Sterling on Mad Men. He has great lines, excellent body language, and always dresses sharply. Try to emulate him.

For reading, I recommend The Game, Double Your Dating, and anything by Vin DiCarlo for starters. There are dozens of books you could read, but those three got me pointed in the right direction.

Step 5 – Pickup Lots of Chicks

I sucked with women for my entire teens and 20′s. If you also suck, spend your 20s learning how to approach and attract women. This has numerous benefits, but a few of the important ones are 1) it gives you practice being cool, 2) you’ll be less needy and insecure, 3) you learn how to treat women properly, and 4) you learn what you like in women and who you’re compatible with.

You also get way better at sex, which is important. By the time you’re 30, I recommend having been with at least 20 women, 30 or more would be better.

Step 6 – Have a Variety of Partners and Explore Sex

Great sex is key to relationships. This is under emphasized in mainstream dating and relationship advice. You don’t get good at sex until you’ve had a good number of partners, sampled a variety of styles, experimented, and gotten laid a bunch. Ignore mainstream literature on the subject because it’s counter productive. Part of the male experience is being with women, so embrace this and be with as many as you can.

I’ve found that I’m learning so much more now about good sex than I did 10 or even 5 years ago because I’ve got a foundation of knowledge and I’m capable of thinking critically about the activity. If I had gotten married in my 20′s, my sexual game would have plateaued and me and my partner would now be having married-people-sex, that is hardly at all. Fuck that.

Here’s something I learned recently. I bought my first pair of restraints and used them on my partner the same day. It was a smashing success. I was inspired to do so by reading this Black and Blue post. I didn’t even know I liked bondage a year ago. Now I think it’s incredibly erotic and releasing. There is a level of communication going on there with my partner that is impossible to achieve via regular conversation. I’ve had plenty of partners who were repelled or squeamish on the idea of bondage, so I’m glad I kept experimenting.

Step 7 – Watch Lots of Porn

Porn is free, it helps you determine what your kinks are, and it gives you ideas in the bedroom. Don’t pooh-pooh porn. If you’re not mentally creating movies of interesting and exciting sexual sessions in your head (ie fantasizing), then you’re not good in the sack. Watch more porn to fix this.

Step 8 – Decide if College is Worth the Expense

Knowledge is getting easier and less expensive to obtain and the economics of a college education are making less sense. Many of the men I work with in technology didn’t graduate from college and most of them have inexpensive degrees. They’re hireable because they’re talented coders and that’s all that matters.

In other fields, you must have at least a bachelors degree. Put some thought into a career and what you need education-wise to make it happen. Graduate school is definitely a big question mark…my graduate degree was expensive and hasn’t given me any ROI yet, so I’m of the mind that it wasn’t worth it. I would rather have spent the time traveling, reading, and exploring. I could have redirected tens of thousands of dollars had I done that.

On the other hand, college gives you a lot of social training and opportunities, and those can’t be discounted. I could also never take away my undergraduate education because of the psychic and spiritual benefits it’s given me…I love being a graduate of the University of Florida and the psychic benefit is worth the premium.

 Step 9 – Decide What Relationships Mean To You

The past two years I’ve been grappling with what kind of relationships are right for me. I know I don’t want kids and I’m on the fence big-time about marriage. For other guys, being married and monogamous with kids is right. For others, monogamy isn’t right, nor is marriage. Explore and be true to yourself.

I also don’t recommend that guys get married until at least age 30 and instead focus their energy on business/career and learning about relationships. The cool thing is we can always get married to younger women after age 30, so it’s no biggee to wait. Women have an entirely different agenda here so you have to be careful not to get pinned down. Unless that’s what you want. If you read Penelope’s post she’s all about women getting married early on and protecting the family, which often conflicts with the male destiny.

 Step 10 – Figure Out Your Destiny

Every man has a gift and is good at something. Figure out what that is and pursue it with passion and determination. This is part of your destiny. Everything else is secondary. A man who doesn’t pursue his destiny is not a man at all.

-Lance

Here it is: Performance and the act of performing is critical to the human experience.

What spurred that thought was watching interviews with several of the kids who played major characters in the production. Even at a young age, children are very much aware that they’re on stage, performing, being judged for their performance, and growing as a result of the experience.

I look back on my life and recall the most vivid, most memorable experiences are ones where I’m performing, especially at a high level. For me, most of these are sports and adventure related. Without these experiences, I can honestly say that my life would be pretty boring. Perhaps even meaningless.

Going a step further, without the various processes that led to my performances, I wouldn’t have many relationships. Those processes attracted the right relationships with the right people, and I value them more than my other, non-performance related experiences.

I think this is why we need jobs that are risky, give us authority, and puts us in front of our peers. It’s better to have a job where you manage a team and you’re always on stage, versus ones where you sit back and go unnoticed. Even better, owning the business pushes you to perform, because there is so much risk.

We need to be on stage even within our relationships. Performance can be sexual. It can also be social, where you and your partner perform together in a social setting. You could perform together physically, like in a sports competition. You perform together while dancing…now that I think about it, I think this is why women like dancing so much. It’s a performance.

This is why we get dressed up for dates. You’re performing on a date for your partner and for the public, and that’s a good thing.

This is a notion I want to explore more into 2012.

Here are some ways to add performance to your life:

• Public speaking
• Leading a team
• Sports performance, like in a game.
• Reading a written work to an audience
• Coaching
• Public performance like dance
• Teaching
• Going on a date or a meeting where you’re trying to impress someone

Add performance to your life to make your life more kickass. No performance = boring life. Let’s get ready for a great 2012!

-Lance

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Guys in their 30′s should be successful professionals and have lots of money. At least enough money to sustain a good lifestyle and a family (if you’re into the family thing). You’re either a working professional with a cool career or a small business owner, or both. Either way, you’re driven, ambitious, creative, and a badass.

If you’re single, it’s by choice, and you can always get girlfriends. Even if you live in a small town in the middle of nowhere, you have options. It is preferred to live in an area where there are plenty of intelligent men and women…I recommend cities on coasts.

You should not spend all your time running game in bars and clubs. That’s a hassle and you’re past all that. You do go out on special occasions, but the primary purpose of that should be the occasion itself.

You did spend a good portion of your 20′s honing your game in bars and clubs and you have a solid skillset in social arts (ie pickup). You should be able to pick up hot chicks in a bar if you wanted to, but it’s old hat, like skateboarding because you learned how to do it when you were 10. When you’re 30, you use your social skills to network, build business connections, do deals, and create a baller social network with you in the center.

You’re great in the sack and know exactly what sexual style and values you’re compatible with. You’ve slept with plenty of women. If you’re 30, I recommend a number approaching 30 (or more) although it’s fine if it’s less as long as you know what you’re doing. Do NOT get into relationships with women whose sexual values conflict with yours.

Dudes in their 30′s are relationship-minded, have girlfriends, and are generally monogamous. You do not spend the bulk of your social time picking up chicks. This is a big switch from guys in their 20′s. If you’re 35 and still picking up chicks and have never had a relationship longer than three months, then you’re royally fucking up. It’s time to graduate to big boy status. LTR’s are preferred for professional dudes our age.

What’s great about being in your 30′s is you have a wide age range of chicks you can attract. All the way from 21-year-old hotties to sexy women in their 40′s. This is your prime and you can afford to be choosy.

At our age, guys should maintain several large social circles that are filled with successful and intelligent men and women. This is your personal NETWORK. It will include some close friends, a lot of colleagues and pals, and a few girlfriends or past girlfriends. You’ve probably spent a few years at least building this network up. This is a critical component and an area that I see most often neglected by clueless dudes. Having an excellent network is big boy game and it’s the reason you spent your 20′s figuring out attraction and fast seduction. You’re leveraging those basic skills to build a big boy network that explodes you through life.

Part of this network is having a couple of groups of really cool dudes to hang out with who are also successful, fun, and socially adept. I have 2-3 of these at all times and I put major energy into maintaining these relationships. My measuring stick for a cool dude is the following: “Would I go into battle with that guy?” If the answer is yes, he’s in my cool male friend category. A couple of those guys should be BFF status. This is another critical piece, and something I see older guys especially are lacking. You cannot go through life without close male friends, even if you’re married and have kids.

If you don’t have a couple of male BFF’s that you can say you’d go into battle with, your masculine energy will drain away and your polarity will become neutral. Fix that immediately.

If you’re traveling or going through a fuck-around period, for example right after a divorce, it’s cool to pickup chicks and generally be a jackass. In fact, I recommend it because it will reconnect you to your core. Once done, get back in the saddle and be normal.

We play sports and take care of our bodies. We work out and project an aura of athleticism, masculinity, strength, and health. If you are obviously exuding those qualities, you are a warrior.

If you’re not a warrior, drop whatever you’re doing and get with the fucking program. You should be able to run a mile in the heat and then lift heavy shit for an hour. You should be able to hike over a mountain on a rescue mission if called to do so. All real men are tested in this way, often many times in their lives. Be prepared for these tests.

You should be difficult to kill. And women love you because you are a warrior badass, not because of anything else. Those are basic qualifications for being a man.

-Lance

I’m a big believer in fast sex, before any kind of gf-bf relationshop has been established. There are good reasons for this, which I will address in a followup post. For now, let’s go with the assumption that guys want to have sex early and women get pissed when we do. What should Jeske do?

Guys are usually in one of three modes: fast sex mode, long term relationship mode, and a hybrid state where we’re open to either. The hybrid state translates to we’re single and open to an LTR, but we’re perfectly happy being single and playing the field. We’ll wait for the best thing to come along. This is a common state for many dudes…I probably spent half of my dating life in the hybrid state.

If you’re like Jeske and want an LTR and don’t want fast sex, I have some easy to implement advice.

1. Avoid the places where the guys are in fast sex mode. Wall Street Cantina at midnight on a Saturday? She shouldn’t go there. Young people go to bars and clubs because they want to party and they want to get laid. If that’s her stomping groups, she’s always going to be frustrated.
2. Avoid guys in their 20s. Most of these dudes are either entirely fast sex or hybrid mode.
3. A lot of the chicks in the bars and clubs will be in fast sex mode also, thus all the sluttiness and “whoring up” that she’s referring to. Again, avoid the nightclub scene if she’s anti-slut.
4. To find an LTR, she needs to leverage her social circles and use tools like match.com.
5. If she doesn’t have social circles filled with LTR-minded singles, then she needs to develop them.
6. Use a technique like the one I blogged about here to determine if the guy she’s on a date with is interested in fast sex or an LTR.

I’ve had terrific success finding LTR’s on Match and it’s even easier for women because there are several times more guys than girls on these sites. If she engineers her profile correctly and does smart power searches, it shouldn’t be a problem to find a guy that doesn’t care about fast sex.

Personally, I love slutty women and I like fast sex and I’m glad there are places (bars and clubs) where I can go to find like minded people. But that’s me.

• We’re getting married on a cruise ship before embarkation, then everyone can join us on the cruise or leave before we do.  This means that the reception is cake-and-punch and that we’ve already booked the honeymoon as well.  Very exciting, and cheaper than just the traditional ceremony/reception packages that we priced.
• We will register for a select few items (which will need to be shipped to our house so we don’t pay duty on them) but our primary goal is going to be a down payment fund.

Some notes regarding the house (since I’ve been vehemently anti-homeownership for such a long time).  The recent housing bubble collapse market price correction means that prices are finally somewhere I feel comfortable (my dad was a construction worker for two decades and a real estate agent for another decade, which is why I saw the bubble for what it was so much sooner than others).  Now, however, we can probably get a 2-bedroom condo for $75K (as opposed to probably double that or more before the crash).  Plus now that Jake quit his horrible corporate job to start his own business and is doing great, he’s no longer the die-hard “move to another state as soon as is feasible” advocate he once was. I love my job and AZ so I’m happy about that change as well.

We also learned some hard lessons about relying on your landlord to maintain your property correctly when our house almost burned down last week because of a faulty breaker box (we literally called the fire department as we threw all our animals into the car sometime after midnight and fled into the night for the safety of a friend’s hardwood floor, ouch).  So even though it’s more responsibility, I think it’ll be worth it if we can swing it.

I am working on getting our wedding website and registry complete so that we can send out save-the-dates, since this will be a destination wedding for a lot of people (we live in Arizona and are getting married in Florida, where I’m from).  And Jake has been amazing, he read all the reviews about every cabin on the ship, read through every shore excursion, found blogs by people who got married on board our cruise line even going so far as to log into their Picassa albums and look at hundreds of photos by actual people!  He is also the one who booked our cruise - all he does anymore in his spare time is research every facet of our wedding and talk about how excited he is.  I’m glad he’s so into it!

I did almost have a nervous breakdown when I saw he’d updated our wedding budget googledoc to a total that was $4K more than we’d agreed to spend, but after I spent the entire day crying at work and came home with a migraine he cut some things out and I’m comfortable again.  For someone who hates advertising, he certainly gets excited to add every bell and whistle he reads about!  A $700 videography package, really?  How often are you going to watch that video, no matter how amazing it is?

He also is indirectly responsible for my wedding dress.  There was a bridal shop going out of business (owner is in her 70s and retiring to CA) next to his tailor and I managed to snag an amazing dress with lots of embroidery and beadwork for $110!  It will need to be tailored but that easily shaves a thousand dollars or so off what I was expecting to spend.  We were originally shooting for the big day to be May 12, 2012 (our six-year anniversary) but ended up with May 26, since that’s when the cruise we ended up wanting was departing.  Seven days and stops in Mexico, Belize, and Isla Roatan, here we come!

Related posts:

• Honey’s Perfect First Date
• A Recent Email Exchange: Or, I’ve Become the Cliche
• Honey on Sexual Compatibility
• Honey: I’m Engaged!

Firstly, my simple model of evaluating a relationship is spot on. There are two components, Companionship and Sex, and I rate them on a scale of 1-10. For me, the sex has to be at least a 9 and the companionship a 6. If I have those two things at those levels I’m pretty much set. I don’t bother overthinking all the stuff that goes into a relationship (communication, commonalities, pets, religion, etc) because those are details and the details are malleable.

If the companionship is great but the sex is mediocre, we’re pretty much friends and I can make the appropriate moves to get us into a friend zone. If the sex is great but the companionship sucks, we’re fuck buddies and that’s it.

Once I’m in a relationship, I’ve found it fruitful to act a little dumb and let her perceive that she’s slightly smarter than me. To be honest, I don’t usually have to act dumb, because I’ve found that women in general are so much more socially and emotionally intelligent then men that she just is smarter. I place a high value on social intelligence…this gets you farther in life than book smarts because social intelligence is the workhorse behind generating opportunities and networking. I always look for highly socially intelligent women when I’m dating.

I act cocky and socially intelligent myself, enough that she’s aware that I’m an above average male where it counts. This is important because socially retarded men are not attractive and create all sorts of problems later in the relationship. Can you be socially retarded and attractive? Yes, but it’s a pain in the ass to deal with when you get deep into an LTR. Don’t even think about being socially retarded if you’re in a relationship.

The way that I act dumb is not by being clueless or naive, but by fucking up occasionally. I act like a jackass and get into trouble, usually in a masculine way. For example, getting too drunk with my guy friends while watching football, getting kicked out of a bar, something like that. If you throw jackass episodes in every once in awhile during the course of your LTR, it’s healthy and actually creates attraction.

If you NEVER get into trouble, you’re boring and can’t be trusted. I also make lots of dumb but masculine comments that feeds into this persona. Example: “Wow, that chick has an amazing rack!” Say it in a boys-will-be-boys kind of way and you’re all set.

When girls describe me, they sometimes say I’m kind of an asshole but also a really good dude. I consider that a high compliment. You want: Kind of an Asshole + Really Good Dude = Alpha Male.

This works because the girl I’m in a relationship with wants to maintain the fantasy that she’s with a bad boy. Bad boys mess up occasionally. This is a major component of maintaining a healthy sex life and keeping sexual fantasies alive and kicking. More on the sex stuff below…

The other ingredient here is it’s important to be a badass at a couple of things and have professional success. If you don’t have success and you’re not a badass, then when you act like a jackass you actually are just a jackass! See my previous post about the Blueprint For Being a Man. This is also a respect issue, I need to respect myself to unleash my inner warrior and she wants to embrace me as an alpha male. The bottom line is if I’m in a relationship, I have to be a badass + bad boy to make it work.

For sex, me and my partner follow a dominate-male / submissive-female model and our cores are highly polarized the way David Deida describes, that is I’m highly masculine and she’s really girly. Nothing else works for me. I’ve tried relationships where our polarity is neutral and the sex sucks. There’s no creativity or energy there.

What’s interesting is that when I’m having a 10 sex life, I’ve noticed that she generates the idea of having a bang session more often than me, but I do the heavy lifting of engineering the session, if that makes sense. I direct the movie and fill in the fantasy, she’s the executive producer. If we’re firing on all cylinders, I should feel like I can *barely* keep up because her sexual appetite is voracious. If I occasionally get the comment that she’s “initiating sex more often,” than I know things are going well. Just don’t let that happen too much

It’s also my job to manage our sexual energy. Ideally we’d only have 2-3 sessions per week during a heavy work phase and then 4 or more during the off-season. This is because women absorb sexual energy and become more creative after having sex, while men, ironically, lose sexual/creative energy and motivation. It’s very important to manage this if you’re in a work and building phase of your professional life. Too much sex and you won’t get anything done.

Sidebar: I’ve been exploring bondage and I’ve found that it’s super healthy on many levels and helps our communication, so bondage is in. Also, I don’t trust women who don’t masturbate.

When I’m with a woman who’s highly socially intelligent, I always let her run chick game on me and otherwise test me as a man. Why? Because her social intelligence is a gift and she needs to use her gifts to feel like a woman. Also, it’s healthy because I need to be tested as a man in the relationship. Being tested is part of my destiny and provides opportunities for growth. When she gets out of line, which she will, I spank her and “punish” her when we have sex. I want her to get out of line and she wants to be spanked. That zeroes everything out and we’re all good. Plus the sex kicks ass.

From afar what this looks like is that my girlfriend is “kind of a bitch”. On a scale of 1-10, it’s a 3-4 in bitchiness. I’ve been with women who can’t control their gifts and they end up being a 9-10 in bitchiness. That’s too much. I drop those chicks. Women who have no bitchiness whatsoever can’t be trusted, because she’s either repressing her nature or a pushover, neither of which are healthy. Bottom line here is I want a girlfriend who is kind of a bitch and also a sweetheart.

So that’s it! I have it figured out and I’m looking forward to awesome dating and relationships on the backside of my 30′s. It’s been a long process to figure out relationship game, but well worth it.

Here’s a roundup of the links in this post:

• Relationships Boiled Down To Two Things
• How to Act Dumb (or Smart) and be more Attractive
• How Often Should You Have Sex If You’re Busy?
• How Do You Deal With A Bratty Girlfriend?
• Blueprint for a Man’s Life