Comments on: Don’t Be A Cheating Douchebag

By: TentCamper

TentCamper — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 03:19:42 +0000

Don’t pay it n mind bro. None of his concern.
I am not one for cheating, but that is YOUR thing not mind. I do understand why people do and in no way judge it. I do think that honesty is always best and if you want to be with more than one person…find people that are ok with that.

Anyway…Ihate people that insert themselves into your issues. That guy has most likely been cheated on and is on some sort of rampage

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By: cheekie

cheekie — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 03:56:09 +0000

Pretty bastardly situation all around, holy crap.
That’s not an FB, it’s a Mistress.

It isn’t heroin. It’s freebasing, and you are about to get blown up ala Mr Pryor.

If you fuck around on your spouse, you’re a dick. If you fuck around with someone fucking around on their spouse, you are lacking some morals. If you fuck around with someone fucking around on their spouse whilst you are fucking around on yours, well that’s just plain fucked up.

Lance, dead spot on.

Big probs here, and his cock isn’t one of them.
Big cock? so what. Dime a dozen.
She’s fucking you because it’s easy dude. And vice versa.

I love being able to say fuck a lot, it’s cathartic.

By: Jonsi

Jonsi — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 03:30:39 +0000

If not made clear from the beginning, at the very least you need to approach it as an intellectual conversation — “do you think monogamy is an outdated concept in modern society?” — without it sounding like you are planning to cheat. Most people desire monogamous relationships. They are not for everybody. Like Lance says, make sure from the beginning you put your values out there.

Let’s face the music: withholding significant information from your partner that could allow them choice in being with you, is manipulative by definition. Choices are to come clean, or end it. Anything else is continuous manipulation.

By: Honey

Honey — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 00:19:11 +0000

The BF and I just discussed this over dinner, and we agreed that there’s no good way out of such a scenario, because whether the other people know it or not yet, he’s hurt them all. This is NOT an FB situation, it’s an affair.

And, Brunhilda and MeThinks, I don’t buy the size argument either. Most guys are all pretty similar, and I’ve never known a bigger guy (whether I slept with him or not) for him his size was a positive. Perhaps his size is superior to her fiance’s, but that’s an individual thing, not a general “big penises are better” thing.

Personally, I think the girlfriend is pretty dispicable, too. Neither of them are cut out to be with the people they are “officially” with, since they are so clearly incapable of being with them in a monogamous way. Like Lance says, if they want to have multiple partners that’s fine, but it has to be made clear from the beginning, and it’s far too late to go back and set those parameters with their “actual” significant others.

My original recommendation for therapy stands.

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By: Marc F.

Marc F. — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 23:56:25 +0000

I gotta agree with the Dateable Dork. No way he’s banging his FB that often and still has enough juice to pleasure his wife on a regular basis. His wife has to know something’s up. I’d wager she just doesn’t care, and that there’s more to the story than this dude is sharing.

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By: Loving Annie

Loving Annie — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 22:19:39 +0000

What makes you think this douchebag isn’t ALSO screwing his wife in the physical sense ???

Good for you for calling him what he is - a user/jerk/liar without conscience.

By: The Dateable Dork

The Dateable Dork — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 21:44:45 +0000

Wow, way to lay the smackdown, Lance! I agree that this guy definitely needs to get a divorce, stat.

But it makes me wonder… if he’s been fucking this chick every other day for the past two years, how it is possible that his wife doesn’t know something’s up, especially if she’s not getting laid? Even a completely oblivious person couldn’t ignore this for two years. I wonder if she’s already got one foot out the door?

By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 21:32:54 +0000

Sounds like this guy should get a divorce. Then he can have as many FB’s as he wants.

And speaking of FB’s, I have one I can’t shake. We don’t meet every other day, more like every other week. The sex is great, but there’s not much else there. BUT - at least I’m not screwing her behind someone else’s back.

In my perfect world, I’d have a great girlfriend/wife who I want to be with, and with whom the sex is friggin’ fantastic!

By: Me Thinks

Me Thinks — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 21:22:08 +0000

I cannot agree more whole-heartedly. And I have to say, I don’t believe “Wizard” is telling a 100% true story - like she can’t find another big-un and only your unit can satisfy her and that is the only reason she keeps banging you? Come on, douchebag, I’m not buying that!

By: Cathouse Teri

Cathouse Teri — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 20:04:01 +0000

Totally on the mark, Lance. That spade needed to be called.

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