I had a complete blast on the IDW Radio Show last night and I want to give big ups to Eathan for having me on. Everything went swimmingly, Eathan was a great host, and the hour flowed by with no hitches. We’ll have to do it again and get Honey on there also!
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Cool Shit from the IDW Radio Show
Natural vs. Structured Game.
We talked pickup a fair bit and shot around the debate of natural versus structured game. I’m a structured game guy, that is I learned “game” by reading books and practicing lines and routines in-field. These days, my game is very natural looking simply because I’m so comfortable socially and I no longer get intimidated by big, bad hotties. Eathan, on the other hand, is a true natural, he was born with a high social intelligence and he’s realized his skill WITHOUT learning the structure from a book (I believe he’s read Mystery Method recently, though).
The interesting thing is we do nearly identical stuff, from witty one-liners, to gaming guys to get to the girls, to pre-selecting oneself, to reading BL and projecting cool. We even played the game Marry, Hookup, Kill, on the show, which is the exact routine I use almost every time I’m working a girl in the field. See this post for more details, item #8. So we arrived at the same knowledge through different pathways. Tres cool.
Overcoming racial stigma.
This was an interesting discussion. Eathan disclosed that he uses his race to his advantage when meeting white chicks, simply because of the “positive” stereotype of the black man as a sexual badass. Ya know, they have big dongs, right?
I, on the hand, used to have to overcome the stigma of the Asian man as a sexual loser (we’re talking like high school and early college here). Lame, but true. Yes, a lot of this negative perception was in my own head, and I projected that low value outwardly, but it was still there. Thanks to television and movies for that one. Anyway, these days I use my “exotic” looks to my advantage and I don’t have a problem bagging white chicks any more.
Does race matter to your relationships?
One of my favorite parts of the show was listening to Dr. Lili, Eathan’s second guest, who’s an interracial relationship counselor. She was totally hilarious and awesome!
Her take on race was that she sees beauty everywhere, with everyone, and in the end it’s the cultural differences and associated values that affect the relationship, not the race itself. I think that’s a lovely sentiment, but I tend to disagree.
Here’s my take.
Please flame me if I’m being a douche. I think the physical DOES affect the attraction, that is, on a chemical/hormonal level, your body wants you to mate with a person who has a particular set of genes that would help spawn healthy children. I used my example of Asian women, that is I’m not physically attracted to Asian woman at all, even if she’s got a perfect spinner body, 10 looks, and brilliant personality. She just doesn’t make my molecules vibrate. On the other hand, when I see a hottie white chick, I get juiced and the sexual fantasies start rolling. I’m super attuned to these hormonal urges and I’ve learned that denying them is asking for trouble. Can the chemical be overcome? Absolutely…we can condition ourselves to find anything attractive (or unattractive), and we can be gamed into feeling attraction for someone our bodies might otherwise tell us is not a good match.
That’s why I don’t think Eathan dating white is a choice. His chemicals are telling him what to do.
Does size matter?
Dr. Lili emphatically pooh-poohed this notion, and again I disagreed. She said penis size doesn’t matter because it’s all about the clit and the g-spot, which are accessible by even the tiniest of man darts.
I asked her if having a big vagina made a difference in the quality of sex.
Her response: “No, that’s absolute bullshit. Next question.”
Eathan, via IM, to me, “I feel that. It’s like having a hotdog in a hallway.”
I’ve been with women with “loose” cooters and it definitely DID affect the sex…like, it was kinda lame. Hey, I’m not hating. Remember Samantha from SATC? She’s needs “a big one.” IMO size is a factor, but you can certainly make up for it with excellent bedroom game.
Moody.bitch, one of Eathan’s regular commenters, asked me flat out if the sterotype of Asian men with little dinky’s is true. I told her I’m no Ron Jeremy, but I’m not Pee Wee Herman either. To be totally honest, my junk is medium sized and fits just right.