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Dirty Sex and Monogamy Is Lame, by Kiera (NSFW)

By on Aug 5, 2010 in Featured, Relationships, Sex

This is a guest post from Kiera, who blogs at My Secret Hobby. I’ve been reading Kiera for awhile now and I love her stuff. What does she blog about? SEX and more SEX. Raw and unfiltered. I totally love this chick, she gets more play than a bar full of PUA’s. Her tagline is real simple: “The pursuit of cock.” What more is there to say? Enjoy this erotic encounter and then head over to her blog for more goodness.

While I was writing this guest post for Lance I received an drunken offer at 2:30 in the morning to meet up with an old fling… specifically, the guy whose virginity I took about two years ago. I rarely see him in person since he moved so we keep in touch through chat and webcam. Our conversations are always explicit and we always throw out offers to meet up but it never works out.

But this night, I really, really wanted it. I was amped up and ready to go. I’ve always wanted needed another go at his monster cock. He used to be quite the delicious mouthful and I wanted to show off all the talent my tongue had acquired.

So how could I pass up his offer?! Forget the fact that I’d have to sneak out of my house while my parents slept and drive their car 20 minutes away. Being the cockwhore that I am, I jumped in my car without hesitation, picked him up and had the best car sex of my 22 years of life. It was 2 hours of raw, sweaty and animalistic fucking. Even though I didn’t get spanked, he roughed it up enough. A few hard cockslaps to my face, the hair pulling, biting, and face-fucking, were all punctuated with huns and sweeties and I ate that shit up! And his hands…wow. I’d like to thank the girl that taught him to carry on no matter how much shaking and thrashing he’s causing. We were all over that car, so I’m sure there are ass prints on the dash, a sweaty body print on the ceiling, as well as jizz all over the back seat (sorry car, even when I beg for it, sometimes I just can’t catch it all). I still can’t find my underwear.

Why am I telling you this? I’ve got an usual hobby. I like to spend my free time in pursuit of cock. Yep that kind of cock… dong, wang, schlong, elephant trunk or whatever you want to call it. I’m not sure why I am so fascinated by them. They’re sexy, mysterious, powerful, masculine and addictive. I have little self control when it comes to matters of cock. I imagine it’s close to a nicotine or caffeine addiction. It’s just something that is always on my mind and something I have to have.

This pursuit of cock also means I’m unable to be physically monogamous. I can’t do it. I don’t believe in it. I believe sex can be unattached, care-free fun. That doesn’t mean it can’t be crazy and passionate, but there doesn’t have to be romantic or long-term feelings attached to it. Sex is like hugging a friend. You can hug your friends without romantic intention, so why not fuck them too?

My strong dislike of monogamy makes it difficult for me to maintain relationships with men. I simply cannot be monogamous for extended periods of time. Once the craving sets in, I have to go find a new cock to please. Since I know I’m eventually going to wander, it makes it even harder to emotionally settle into a relationship I know will fall apart.

But Kiera, you say. Just tell the guy, he’ll love it! As much as men think banging other people is conceptually fucking-A, I don’t think most guys can handle it. It’s cool when they get to bone all the girls but as soon as their lady has a turn it becomes an affront to their masculinity and they feel inadequate on all counts. I don’t get it. Why can’t I be in a trusting, respectful, sexually awesome relationship with a plaything or two on the side? Okay Kiera! Why not keep it a secret? Because I don’t want to have to lie. I’d rather be honest.

For me, it basically boils down to being a control thing. I don’t want my choice of who I sleep with made for me. The option to sleep with additional partners should always be available in any relationship. And maybe, just maybe, if I ever feel so committed and satisfied with one man, I’ll settle down and technically be monogamous with him, but it will never be a steadfast rule.

Am I just selfish? Am I a greedy cock hoarder?  Am I lazy? Emotionally insensitive? Have I just not met the right guy? You tell me.

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  • http://ashysexykatiedid.blogspot.com Kate

    I view sex the same way you do – it’s refreshing to know there are other women out there that think sex is awesome in and of itself!

    I loved where you likened sex to hugs with your friends. Humans need to touch and be touched. I constantly crave the feel of a man’s body, hands and cock touching me, cuddling me, fucking me. I only ever actually “crave” the physical closeness of cock, and never have craved emotional closeness (that being said I have been dating a man I absolutely love for two years and we are open to others in our bedroom).

    YES, you haven’t met the right guys yet. For years I “dated” an average of 3-5 cocks at a time and added new ones and weeded out the ones that didn’t work for me on a monthly basis. All of these men knew I wasn’t monogamous to them, and all of them LOVED the fact that I was a no-strings, sexually confident woman. Amazingly enough even tho I just wanted them for their cock, many of these men I grew to be very close friends – some I still consider among my best friends.

    So, I definitely don’t think it’s being selfish, a greedy cock hoarder, lazy, or emotionally insensitive at all. As long as you are honest with the men you play with, there is absolutely nothing wrong with having your cock and eating it too! ;-)
    .-= Kate´s last blog …Sex Blogs I Read &amp Love =-.

  • http://yourspyingtools.com/index.php?p=articles/reverse-phone-lookup/t-mobile-reverse-look-up Mary | T Mobile Reverse Look Up

    Wow, Keria, I love your raw, visual writing style.

    Always – I do think monogamy is lame, considering it’s a artificial way to enslave both MAN and woman.

    Besides, because of religion we’re touchy feely about sex, while our cousins in the animal kingdom don’t give a damn about sex, they hump everywhere, all day everyday.

    Bottom line: Monogamy artificial invented by the beta males to ensure that they get some poon tang in the long run.

    Overall, great article <3
    .-= Mary | T Mobile Reverse Look Up´s last blog …mobile-phone-reverse-number-tool =-.

  • http://www.soundcloud.com/something-wicked vince

    Well, Kiera, it sounds like we’d get along nicely.

    I think it is okay to maintain a relationship as well as playthings.

    Simply put, I am at work, and I can’t please you. Why not just have you get some somewhere else while I continue work undistracted? :)

  • terri

    Keira –

    I saw the title of your article and thought, oh, god…another silly rant about the stupidity and unsexiness of those who only fuck one person at a time. Gratifyingly, the article itself doesn’t impose your standards on anyone else. You don’t believe in monogamy, and that’s absolutely your right. I can’t say I agree with the “we hug our friends, why not fuck them?” business. I’ve got a whole bunch of friends I’d prefer to never see naked, let alone waving their genitals at me. And, not to mimic my objection to lance’s porn post, the “I ate that shit up” statement is repulsive. It conjures images that I’d prefer to leave to the coprophageous, a subculture that (sorry) I do think is sick.

    And you’re honest about the effect of your “hobby” on your ability to create and maintain a lasting relationship. Again, if that’s okay with you, and as long as you’re honest with your multitude of lovers, no harm done.

    But…Mary T’s comments:

    “…our cousins in the animal kingdom don’t give a damn about sex, they hump everywhere, all day everyday.”

    I was actually expecting to see the ‘animal kingdom’ defense in the main article (and, again was gratified that it wasn’t there). This is the same argument that’s used to prove that we’re all actually bi, or gay, or should have orgies…and it’s nonsense. Or, more accurately, the _purely_ biologically driven impulse for sex among the non-sapiens is a completely different mechanism from our drive for pleasure. And it’s not true that animals “hump everywhere, all day everyday.” No, they don’t. Females copulate while in estrous _only_. The rest of the time they claim to have a headache. So, mary, if you really want to go with this argument, I assume you only have sex during the week before your period.

    Although she doesn’t say so explicitly, there’s an implication that non-humans aren’t monogamous. Granted, life-long monogamy among animals is rare (much rarer than among humans), but mating-cycle monogamy isn’t. It’s the norm, particularly as you get to the higher mammals.

    “Bottom line: Monogamy artificial invented by the beta males to ensure that they get some poon tang in the long run.”

    More nonsense. I think Mary needs to read a few books. Sure, you can find any number of theories about the genesis and evolution of marriage (the sancification of monogamy), but it’s broadly accepted that marriage (until recently) has had more _practical_ benefits for women than for men. The “invented by the beta males” assertion is uninformed silliness.

  • http://ashysexykatiedid.blogspot.com Kate

    Awesome point, Terri! I always wondered at people who try to use the biology excuse for cheating on their partner and/or sleeping around in general. Do they actually know anything about the animal kingdom?

    As I said above, I am not really for monogamy (at least in my life), but animals are not the “sluts” that people using this excuse are trying to make them out to be.

    If people wanted to be “free to have sex like the animals” have it, there would be no oral, anal or kink of any kind, there would be no sex outside of a few days a month when the women is ovulating, and there, would be no birth control which means when the woman inevitably gets pregnant, there would be no sex for 9 months (and since you’re only having sex when she’s most fertile, there’s likely to be no sex for 9 out of each 10 month time frame)…

    Sounds like loads of fun, I think I will stick to having sex like a human, thanks! :-)
    .-= Kate´s last blog …Explaining Donkey Shows to the Incredibly Naive =-.

  • Honey

    Yeah, I’ve always thought of it as you have to be an alpha male to be worthy of monogamy.

  • terri

    In some species, you have to be the alpha male in order to mate _at all_.

    The term “alpha male” bugs me. (And “alpha female”, although it doesn’t get as much play.) I’ve met guys who refer to themselves as “alphas” when what they really mean is “asshole without a clue”. Why is that this appellation, which is meant to denote uniqueness and leadership, is now used by the herds of little “lances” to mean a cookie cutter adherent to the “rules” of getting laid? But, oh well…it’s definitely a useful title. When a guy refers to himself as an “alpha”, I scan the room for someone with a bit more imagination and humor. The guy who looks bemused and doesn’t have a “wingman”.

  • http://www.aplusonlinedating.com/ Aplus

    i think it’s great but I will stick to what makes feels more like human to me…lol.

  • http://brightstormyday.wordpress.com Mandy! XD

    I think there’s something very wrong with you.

    I think that one day when you’re alone and no one wants to fuck you you’ll wake up and think of all the opportunities you missed.

    That’s all I have to say.

  • sdc

    this reminds me of a line from a book i read once where an animal was talking to a human and told them, “You humans was given the greatest gift in sex. but you f’ed it all up by making it have to mean something.”
    this was a wise animal.

  • http://www.aol.com decenthumanbeing

    what a dumb bimbo. the will to spew explicit sluttiness does not make anyone a good writer. if you read this and th ink that it has a particular ‘raw’ style or some such, then you’d probably love to read the near-enough infinite amounts of low-grade erotic literature that are readily available to you on the net. have a blast spending your life being obsessed with your fucking vaginas