Smooth! Artsy Chick didn’t flake on me, so I must have run some decent game afterall. We met at Starbucks at the appointed hour. We both ordered tea, sat at a table outside, and conversed for 45′. Excellent conversation, topics ranged from travel to art to mountain biking to our respective degrees in Fine Arts. We had a lot in common. I would characterize this stretch as generally flat in attraction, mostly because we sat across from each other, talked, and no kino. We definitely weren’t flirting, it was just a getting to-know-you period. Artsy Chick was a very good conversationalist, easily my equal.
I told 2-3 solid stories, and during one story about me dealing with some funny relationship drama, she leaned way across the table and listened closely. Decent little spike there.
BTW, we had both just come from our respective work places. She looked good, dressed in a white skirt and purple top with a couple of buttons opened. She was also wearing glasses and had this nerdy hot chick look going on. I was getting a stiffy staring at her ta-ta’s.
I, on the other hand, looked like a friggin dirt squirrel. Without revealing exactly what it is I do, I had been working outside for two hours, so I was sweaty and a bit disheveled. I was wearing cargo shorts, a polo shirt (changed in the car en route), and a friggin baseball cap. If she was looking for a laid back meetup partner, I was definitely it. The cool thing is, I didn’t give a fuck! It didn’t even enter my reality that my dress was going to affect anything.
So after 45′ I suggested a bounce. This was planned. There was a sweetass Vietnamese restaurant across the street from the coffee shop, and earlier in the conversation I had brought up the subject of favorite foods. I seeded the conversation by talking about Asiatic cuisine and Vietnamese in particular. So, at the right moment, I suggested we go across the street, sit at the bar, and have a glass of wine and something to eat. She was all for it. The cool thing? I just happened to know the owner and bartender. Pretty slick, huh?
So we sat at the bar of the Vietnamese restaurant, and sure enough, I got a massive social value boost after the owner greeted and hugged me and I introduced him to Artsy Chick. I had the upper hand in the interaction now. I sat next to her and we talked for another 1.5 hours, drank wine, and ate dinner. The food was fucking awesome, and the convo wasn’t bad either. I gave her 3 kino pings (light touches on the knee). She didn’t ping me back, but she gave me positive, open body language and kept her knees right next to mine. Not bad.
End of the date. I walked her to her car, hugged her goodnight. There was some mild attraction there, but nothing to get all excited about.
Here’s What I Think
Artsy Chick has some good social value; she’s a professional artist and works for a couple of non-profits and galleries. She’s really plugged into the art scene in town. Her last boyfriends were a venture capitalist, pilot, and a pilot. It’s reasonable to assume they all made at least six figures and had bangin’ lifestyles. Oh yeah, she’s also taller than me by several inches (she’s unusually tall). She’s not hot, but she’s cute. My guess is her perspective is that she’s good enough to go out with men of means and won’t readily downgrade. My job doesn’t suck, but I don’t manage a hedge fund either. So I think it’s going to be tough to get her.
Serious playerz would probably say that this is major chump (AFC) thinking. Doesn’t matter how hot or what kind of job you have (or she has), the girl can be gotten. Well, that’s fine and all, but my game isn’t at that level. For me to bridge the social value gap, I’m going to have to pump her buying temperature through the roof and run airtight game.
Haters could say that I’m playing too many little games and should just keep it real. Right. Are you fucking kidding me? Artsy Chick isn’t a silly party girl. She’s a real, unique, successful, cool woman. You can’t be a schmoe off the street and expect to snag her. You either have to be a) naturally attractive and come in with higher social value, or b) generate mad attraction with superior game. If there’s another way, I definitely want to hear it.
With that in mind, my plan is to set up some kind of unstructured “date” where I can kino and flirt like an animal and go for a hookup. A party or a crowded bar, someplace that’s conducive for generating sexual attraction. I’m not interested in a LTR on this one. An FB thing would be great, but that’s getting way ahead of myself. In the meantime, I’ll maintain the connection with email game and look for openings.
Things I Could Have Done Better
- Again, I needed way more kino.
- I noticed several times I was speaking too fast and I had to consciously slow myself down. My tonality and pacing still sucks.
- I should have done some qualifying (ie “You seem adventurous. Tell me something adventurous about yourself”) and push-pull. Attraction was flattish and I believe I came off as a little too eager.
- Worn my lifts. Just kidding!