So the weekend actually turned out kind of crummy. On Friday, the BF completely forgot that he was going to come home early and cook me dinner, so he came home after 9 p.m. I’d finally given up and had a bowl of sweet pea soup around 8:45 but ended up going to bed hungry. The BF promised that he’d make the fish for lunch the next day.
Well he woke up with a list of errands that he wanted to run…he didn’t get out of bed until after noon, so I asked whether we were still having lunch. Then there was a disagreement about how to cook the fish…he did end up doing it on the grill (which was my preference) but between that and the fact that making lunch didn’t give him enough time to get one of the most important errands (having some dress shirts tailored) done and also we got to the car dealership to pick up our floor mats and wheel covers 20 minutes before they said they would close…and they were closed.
So he was crabby all day – then a friend of his wanted to go out for drinks that night. He’d been avoiding calling her because he hoped she’d forget, but she remembered so we set it up. He went to take a nap and asked me to wake him up around 8:45 (we were meeting her at 9)…well I fell asleep in front of the TV and didn’t wake up until 9:30. Somehow this was my fault and he hadn’t shaken his crummy ‘tude from earlier in the day, but off we went to the bar.
Where he was negative all night and picked a fight with me over nothing important and didn’t apologize until Monday, despite the fact that he got too drunk to drive his new car home so I was the DD and walked his dog after we got back (at 2 a.m.). I realize now that he just woke up that way and I should’ve a) not said anything about the fish, and b) not accompanied him on his errands or to the bar. I have a tendency to want to be around him when he is like that to make sure that he’s okay, but it never does any good. I need to be stronger about leaving him alone until he’s over whatever’s bothering him.
We don’t have days like this often but when we do it is really disheartening. I know that I have taken things out on him before when he had nothing to do with why I was cranky, but…
Fortunately he heard that his work is not going to have any layoffs after all…he heard this from someone at his level and so is going to try and verify this with his supervisor. Hopefully it is true, in which case he can stop killing himself and get a little work/life balance again. Then maybe he’ll act like a human being.
In other news, while I won’t be blogging about it as much as DD, but I have gotten on the Weight Watchers bandwagon. I am 5’3″ and currently 147 lbs (size 8). My goal is 120, which is where I look and feel the best. Wish me luck! I am also thinking about joining a yoga gym and getting a corporate massage membership through work…I have had the same crick in my neck for over a month. It is time to start taking care of myself!
Oh, and I got copies of my dissertation in the mail yesterday! The BF was flipping through a copy and, pointing to the “acknowledgments” page, said, “where did you acknowledge ME?” I told him to flip the page and there it was…I dedicated the whole thing to him. He was thrilled - he had no idea I’d done that. He was a beaming, giggly mess for at least 15 minutes and said, “well I guess we have to stay together forever, or else that dedication will be kind of awkward” (especially since I didn’t dedicate it to him by name, but using an ooshy-gooshy nickname…).
How was your weekend? Let me know below, and then procrastinate whatever you should be doing by reading these posts instead: