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Honey's main interests are online dating, long distance dating, and long term relationships. She met her boyfriend on MySpace and they have been exclusive since their first date over three years ago. Currently they live in Tempe, Arizona. Honey graduated with her PhD in Composition and Rhetoric in May 2009. You can contact Honey via email here or online here.

Crummy Weekend

So the weekend actually turned out kind of crummy.  On Friday, the BF completely forgot that he was going to come home early and cook me dinner, so he came home after 9 p.m.  I’d finally given up and had a bowl of sweet pea soup around 8:45 but ended up going to bed hungry.  The BF promised that he’d make the fish for lunch the next day.

Well he woke up with a list of errands that he wanted to run…he didn’t get out of bed until after noon, so I asked whether we were still having lunch.  Then there was a disagreement about how to cook the fish…he did end up doing it on the grill (which was my preference) but between that and the fact that making lunch didn’t give him enough time to get one of the most important errands (having some dress shirts tailored) done and also we got to the car dealership to pick up our floor mats and wheel covers 20 minutes before they said they would close…and they were closed.

So he was crabby all day – then a friend of his wanted to go out for drinks that night.  He’d been avoiding calling her because he hoped she’d forget, but she remembered so we set it up.  He went to take a nap and asked me to wake him up around 8:45 (we were meeting her at 9)…well I fell asleep in front of the TV and didn’t wake up until 9:30.  Somehow this was my fault and he hadn’t shaken his crummy ‘tude from earlier in the day, but off we went to the bar.

Where he was negative all night and picked a fight with me over nothing important and didn’t apologize until Monday, despite the fact that he got too drunk to drive his new car home so I was the DD and walked his dog after we got back (at 2 a.m.).  I realize now that he just woke up that way and I should’ve a) not said anything about the fish, and b) not accompanied him on his errands or to the bar.   I have a tendency to want to be around him when he is like that to make sure that he’s okay, but it never does any good.  I need to be stronger about leaving him alone until he’s over whatever’s bothering him.

We don’t have days like this often but when we do it is really disheartening.  I know that I have taken things out on him before when he had nothing to do with why I was cranky, but…

Fortunately he heard that his work is not going to have any layoffs after all…he heard this from someone at his level and so is going to try and verify this with his supervisor.  Hopefully it is true, in which case he can stop killing himself and get a little work/life balance again.  Then maybe he’ll act like a human being.

In other news, while I won’t be blogging about it as much as DD, but I have gotten on the Weight Watchers bandwagon.  I am 5’3″ and currently 147 lbs (size 8).  My goal is 120, which is where I look and feel the best.  Wish me luck!  I am also thinking about joining a yoga gym and getting a corporate massage membership through work…I have had the same crick in my neck for over a month.  It is time to start taking care of myself!

Oh, and I got copies of my dissertation in the mail yesterday!  The BF was flipping through a copy and, pointing to the “acknowledgments” page, said, “where did you acknowledge ME?”  I told him to flip the page and there it was…I dedicated the whole thing to him.  He was thrilled - he had no idea I’d done that.  He was a beaming, giggly mess for at least 15 minutes and said, “well I guess we have to stay together forever, or else that dedication will be kind of awkward” (especially since I didn’t dedicate it to him by name, but using an ooshy-gooshy nickname…).

How was your weekend?  Let me know below, and then procrastinate whatever you should be doing by reading these posts instead:

  • Hippylovechild

    I hear ya! My BF has been tetchy over the last couple of weeks due to a huge project which is not really working out and I was trying to be around him constantly to ‘support’ him. All it did was get me frustrated about how withdrawn he was. I have backed off a bit the last couple of days and notice that when we spend time together, he is more relaxed. Good on you for the yoga! You should try climbing too, I dropped a whole size since I took it up : )

  • http://20-forty.com lisaq

    My weekend wasn’t fabulous either. Must have been something in the air. I (inadvertantely) started drama with my b/f on Wednesday. He gets very moody, needs his space and wouldn’t talk it out until Friday at which time he was on his way out of town to see a friend who’s getting ready to move out of state. I planned to have a girl’s night out Saturday but ended up not feeling well and stayed in. Not the most fabulous weekend ever, but the week is better…well, unless you count that whole going on vaca with the parents tomorrow thing! :D
    .-= lisaq´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday Eye Candy-Nick Youngquest Edition =-.

  • Mr_Right

    Did you call him your sweet baboo, ala Peanuts? :)

  • http://casualencounters.com/blog/ Janak

    If you didn’t eat enough because he was late home you’ve only yourself to blame. Also, saying you’ll wake someone at a specific time then falling asleep and blowing it? Your fault. No wonder he was cranky.

    You won me back with the dissertation dedication, though.

    I spent the weekend watching “Rome” series I and II. Kind of on an Ancient History kick at the moment, and it was interesting to see a lot of what I’ve been reading about dramatized, even if they took some artistic liberties.
    .-= Janak´s last blog ..XXXblackbook.com review =-.

  • http://honeyandlance.com Honey

    Janak – oh, I agree that it was my own fault for not eating dinner sooner on Friday. Though as far as waking him up – I never said I’d wake him up at a specific time. He told me to, but I never said I’d do it. He’d also said repeatedly that he didn’t want to go out at all. We’d both had a couple of beers so it wasn’t surprising that we both fell asleep.

    Next time I sense that he is in that mood I am just going to leave the house and do my own thing, even if it’s just surfing the ‘net at a coffeeshop. He does this once every 2-3 months and I’ve learned that when he’s like that it doesn’t matter what I do. Even if I’d woken him up when he wanted me to, he still would’ve picked the exact same fight later at the bar. I’ve been there enough times to figure THAT out (though somehow never in the moment).
    .-= Honey´s last blog ..Good News Follows Good News: Or, LinkedIn Works!? =-.

  • http://honeyandlance.com Honey

    I have done climbing in the past, hippylovechild, though not regularly – good idea! I would like a place that has autobelay so I don’t have to worry about a climbing partner.
    .-= Honey´s last blog ..Good News Follows Good News: Or, LinkedIn Works!? =-.

  • http://honeyandlance.com Honey

    I’m sorry to hear that, LisaQ! Hopefully your vaca is better :-)
    .-= Honey´s last blog ..Good News Follows Good News: Or, LinkedIn Works!? =-.

  • http://honeyandlance.com Honey

    I called him my Sweet something, Mr_Right – you’re embarrassingly close!
    .-= Honey´s last blog ..Good News Follows Good News: Or, LinkedIn Works!? =-.

  • http://www.thedateabledork.com The Dateable Dork

    Best of luck with WW, Honey! I’m really excited you decided to join and can’t wait to hear your thoughts about it. Be strong – you can do it! : )

    P.S. – I dedicated my master’s thesis to my then-BF (among other people, like my parents), and yeah, that dedication is kind of awkward now. Oh well!
    .-= The Dateable Dork´s last blog ..I’m turning into a zombie =-.

  • http://fastraktech.com Fastraktech Technology

    This past weekend i have graduation parties to attend as well as a big pigroast. So basically I spent my weekend eating way to much meat and junk food and drinking waaay to much alcohol.
    .-= Fastraktech Technology´s last blog …Enjoy the best feeder products =-.