By Lance on Aug 15, 2011 in Sex | comments(12)
I found Juliet Jeske’s post, Dating After Divorce In a City of Sluts, via the Evan Marc Katz blog. Jeske is a divorced comedian and artist in New York City. She’s starting over in the NYC dating scene and frustrated with how fast things move in the dating world. Her complaint is a common one, that sex happens too fast and guys want to get laid on the first date.
I’m a big believer in fast sex, before any kind of gf-bf relationshop has been established. There are good reasons for this, which I will address in a followup post. For now, let’s go with the assumption that guys want to have sex early and women get pissed when we do. What should Jeske do?
By Lance on Apr 20, 2011 in Featured, Sex | comments(4)
Cheetahs! This post is a bit late, but I’d like to give big props to the following bloggers who participated in our blogger roundtable on sexual compatibility. I’m a big fan of community building and I love when bloggers participate and write on a single topic. You always get a diverse set of perspectives.
Here’s a quick rundown of each post:
By Lance on Apr 7, 2011 in Sex | comments(11)
I thought about this question after reading two posts:
Pavlina’s point #6–Re-channel sex energy–struck a nerve. If you’re a busy creative dude, my recommendation is to only have sex once per week. Here’s why.
By Lance on Mar 21, 2011 in Sex | comments(3)
What Honey said in her post on sexual compatibility has been on my mind the last few days.
I had to search my memory banks to see if I ever had an encounter similar to what Honey described, where there was instant attraction that led to perfect sexual compatibility without a lot of flirting, talking, game, or other fluff in between. The way she describes it, it was just a perfect fit, from start to finish.
By Honey on Mar 14, 2011 in Sex | comments(4)
Hey, all, Lance asked if I would come out of my bloggy retirement briefly to weigh in on sexual compatibility and what it means for Jake and I. Happy to do it!
First of all, I don’t think physical attraction is the same thing as compatibility. There have been times I thought it was, right up until the moment I started to get down and dirty with a guy, only to not be into it at all or (even worse) repulsed by the whole thing. Which is not to say that the guy was repulsive, or that he wanted to do anything repulsive, only to say that for whatever reason (pheromones, maybe?) we just didn’t do anything for each other at all. Talk about awkward, ugh. Continued
By Lance on Mar 13, 2011 in Sex | comments(5)
Howdy Sex Panthers!
Lately I’ve been talking about sexual compatibility and we have a roundtable in the works on the very subject. This post is my kickoff entry.
I’ve established that sexual compatibility is super important in a relationship, so when I’m dating, I want to know as soon as possible if I’m sexually compatible with a woman. Ideally, I would get this information within the first hour or two of a first date, but occasionally I can establish sexual compatibility prior to the first date, like in the email stages. I believe this is something that most people skip over or assume will work itself out during the relationship building process, which is a huge mistake. It’s often too late when you find out if you really connect in the bedroom and this leads to all sorts of problems, not the least of which is an unfulfilling sex life.