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Spanking for Beginners (Guest Post)

I’ve been exploring D/s this year and I’ve been fascinated by the spanking part. Like, why do people get into it and why is it such a turn on, especially for her? Like most vanilla peeps, there was a point where I thought spanking was lame, even ridiculous. Now I love it and so do my partners. To shed some insight on the subject, I asked excellent sex and kink blogger The Beautiful Kind to share her thoughts on the subject. Please check out her blog for more goodness (NSFW).

Also be sure to check back later this week when we have Eathan from idatewhite.com kinking it up. Enjoy!

Years ago I had a girlfriend who wanted a riding crop for Christmas, and I thought, “Oh my!” I’ve been to more than one party that featured a flogger where I was just a voyeur, and it looked pretty intense. I wondered what people got out of spanking. I mean, I spent my whole childhood trying to avoid a spanking, why would I want one voluntarily as an adult? I finally decided to get some firsthand experience with the kinky pastime.

I told the guy I’ve been playing with I had submissive tendencies, so he suggested I bend over his knee. I’d been slapped on the ass during sex, but have never “assumed the position” like that. I balked for oh, about negative one second, then decided to give it a try. Oh my gosh it was hot! He spanked me and get me all hot and steamy and wet and then finger fucked me, then spanked me again. I liked feeling his hand leave my ass, which meant it was about to come back down. More than two spanks in a row was deliciously unbearable.

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Why I Wouldn’t Pay to Send My Kid To College

Lance and I got into a spirited debate in the comments of a recent post about whether or not parents should shoulder the costs for their children to go to college.  Now, this issue is moot for me for a couple reasons:

  1. I’m not having children, and
  2. Jake and I have $100K in student loan debt – APIECE – so between funding our retirement accounts (we got a late start on that, too, since we were already about 30) and paying off our own debts, there’s no way we could afford to send our kids to college even if we had any.

However, it does deserve consideration as a thought experiment about what you value, if nothing else.  Plus he encouraged me to do a separate post on it, so here you go!    Continued

7 Ways To Destroy Creepiness and Improve Your Life (Part 2)

In my previous post on creepiness I talked about why guys get creepy and also tried to dispel a few misconceptions on creepiness and pickup arts. I stated that studying pickup and practicing social skills has improved every area of my life, and I meant it. Now it’s time to share some strategies anyone can use to destroy creepiness and get more social.

So without further ado, 7 ways to destroy creepiness and improve your social life. Continued

How To Destroy Creepiness In Guys (Part 1)

This post was inspired by The Beautiful Kind’s (TBK) blog entitled, Can Creepy Men Be Cured? Before I jump into it, I want to say that I’m a major fan of TBK, not just because of all the hot sex talk going on over there, but because her advice and perspectives on sex and relationships are edgy and real. She’s like the antithesis of mainstream bullshit relationship advice you find on a 1000 other sites on the net. If you want to keep it real and have fun doing it, subscribe to her blog.

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How Important is Sex in Your Relationship?

Okay, serious question. If you’re in a relationship or even just dating, how important is the quality of the sex? I’m looking for some no-bullshit responses here.

Let’s use a thought experiment. Let’s say your girl is near perfect in every way, except the sex is only a 5 on a scale of 1 to 10 for whatever reasons. Very very average, nay even mediocre. Would you stick with it? If so, why or why not? I can’t in my right mind consider staying with a chick if the sex is that…boring…even if everything else is wonderful. Especially if it’s long term.

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Weapons, Video Games, and Relationships

I have found myself wondering a lot recently why the majority of relationships end.  I mean, at best you get one relationship that works out in a “forever” way.  While I’m with Lance that just because a relationship ended doesn’t mean that it failed, why are they all ending in the first place?  My relationship with Jake has lasted far longer than any other I’ve had, and it’s going great – what makes this one so different?

I think the answer lies in video games. Continued