dating

So last night the BF and I were watching this crazy tv show called Manswers (that’s how bad the summer tv drought is hitting our TiVo), and one of the segments was on what type of women are best in bed.  First they polled a bunch of dudes and asked them whether they thought party girls, gymnasts, or smart girls would be best in bed.  I was taken aback by the fact that there are, apparently, only 3 types of women (and one of those types is gymnast?!) but surprised and pleased that they at least edited the footage to suggest that there was a three day tie.

The expert sexologist stated that party girls and gymnasts aren’t nearly as good in bed as smart girls (though “college-educated” was their definition of smart and I’ve taught too many courses at the university level to buy that).  Woo-hoo, Dateable Dork, Vix, and me are all phenomenal in bed!  As if you all didn’t know that.  I did think it was funny that the show didn’t mention whether the same was true for fellas (though the BF pointed out that such claims might alienate the majority of the Manswers demographic). Continued

So in this article on Dating Ugly, I try to unravel the mysteries behind why gorgeous women would date guys who are significantly less good-looking than they are.  While I came down on the side of insecurity as the driving force behind such pairings, what if you’re totally, utterly secure in your fabulous good looks?  Previously there was only HotOrNot.com, a free way to not only judge your little heart out, but get judged and maybe find love.  The BF met his ex on that site, actually. However, such undergrad (and free) pursuits are now behind us, because we now have BeautifulPeople.net (only supported by IE, annoyingly enough for Firefox devotees like me).

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To add to the discussion about what’s great about monogamy versus some of the other systems out there, my interest was peaked when I came across this article called “Let’s Chat About Cheating.” Author Steve Penner not only references the Sex and the City movie and TV series (one of the most accurate commentaries on relationships EVER), he gives his perspective on AshleyMadison.com, a “dating” site for people who are…um, married, and interested in having an affair(s).  In fact, one of their slogans is, “Life is short.  Have an affair.”

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So, with all the talk going around about open relationships and “growing with your partner,” I feel like I have to come to the defense of good old monogamous sex.  I do admit that there’s something to the anticipation and sexual tension of a first time, and there’s obviously something to be said for variety.  However, aside from the obvious benefits of not having to use a condom, I think that monogamous sex has the potential to be far more exciting and fulfilling than sex with a bunch of different partners.  Here, Honey’s Top Five Benefits of Monogamous Sex. Continued

Props to Evil Woobie for turning me on to this. A blogger in the Philippines asked a blogger chick out on a date. She insisted he pay 10,000 Entrecard credits for the date. No shit, you just read that correctly. I don’t even know where to start with this one. The date never happened because the guy posted about the potential date on the Entrecard forums here, she found out about it, got her panties in a twist and dropped the guy. Via SMS. I love it. Geek dating. And you people bitch about going to bars and clubs?

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Found this craigslist post while digging around. Couldn’t tell if the author was serious or what. She (presumably the author is female) gives 15 reasons why geeks and nerds make good boyfriends. Ha! As if. I’m going to debunk that right now…

(These guys make terrible bf’s)

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So, in case you didn’t know, I won the First Date contest over on Dad’s House! Check out DM’s original post with the contest parameters (plus all the awesome comments left by his readers) as well as his follow-up post with an analysis of all the fabulous entries (plus links, of course).

I enjoy the writing, the sarcasm, and the brutal honesty of DM’s blog, and I’m totally stoked to win a $25 Amazon eCard (which I will probably spend on the next books in George R.R. Martin’s Song of Ice and Fire series, as I just read the first two of the series as part of my vow to the BF to Make The Most Of My Unemployment). Yes, you heard right, I read fantasy novels. What of it?

Even if you’re not unemployed with scads of free time like me (that is, when I’m not driving my boyfriend to the Emergency Room because he has kidney stones), check out all of the entries, linked in his follow-up post. They range from the practical to the laugh-out-loud hilarious, especially my fine entry, here. Okay, okay, check out Lance’s entry while you’re at it. Any post that contains the phrase “fuck like wildebeasts” is worth the read, even if he did spell wildebeest wrong.

Is 5:30 in the afternoon too early for a beer? Not if it’s a self-congratulatory beer!!! Peace out, peeps.

Well so I went to a wedding of a good friend of mine this weekend and had a blast. It was a gorgeous day, the ceremony was beautiful (not too long), and the reception afterwards was fun. I spent time catching up with friends and meeting some nice new people. Yup, I drank free booze and macked on the chicks, although unfortunately everyone was married or in serious LTR’s. Not a target rich environment, as they say.

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(photo credit MSNBC Media)

There was some interesting stuff in the media recently about Paul Janka, a dating coach living in New York City. He was interviewed on the Today Show by Meredith Vieira and Jennifer Schneider, a sex addiction doctor. As can be expected, the interview wasn’t really an interview…more like a chance to out Janka and sensationalize the fact that he’s slept with a lot of girls and that he’s created a system for making that happen. And that he’s totally honest about it (gasp!). You can watch the original Janka segment here. It’s interesting and well worth the eight minutes (Janka’s body language alone is worth the viewing). Janka doesn’t get rattled and he does a good job answering non-confrontationally, even though they ask ridiculous questions. Yeah, mainstream media at it’s finest again.

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As Lance says here, the perfect date is indeed a blog-worthy subject. I’ve been on many first dates myself (in fact, that was practically all I used to go on) and while I have to agree with Dadshouse that most online daters aren’t terribly original when it comes to first dates, I thought I’d put in my two cents as part of my entry for his First-Date Contest.

I have to agree with Lance that what makes a first date stand out isn’t typically the venue, it’s something electrifying about the company that you’re with. However, it’s hard to be electrified if you don’t craft the scenario at least a little bit to your liking. The anticipation begins before the date. Obviously my best first date in theory was with the BF, since it led to our fantastic relationship. And there were good things and bad things about it–so here I’ll list the good things and the bad, thereby serving as an object lesson in what to do and what not to do, simultaneously. Continued