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Honey's main interests are online dating, long distance dating, and long term relationships. She met her boyfriend on MySpace and they have been exclusive since their first date over three years ago. Currently they live in Tempe, Arizona. Honey graduated with her PhD in Composition and Rhetoric in May 2009. You can contact Honey via email here or online here.

Can He Come Too Soon?

So in one of my recent posts I mentioned that I gave the BF a blowjob before heading off to work…and of course horny pervs DM and Lisaq focused on that and completely ignored my recommendations for stinky goat cheese and tangerine-flavored vinegar (fools).  However, there was something notable about that particular blowjob that got me thinking…

I was hesitant to give him the BJ at first because I didn’t want to be late to work.  I mean, I live 3 miles from work, so there’s no real excuse for that when they’re laying off people in June and I’m in the middle of my performance review right at this very moment (it’s going very well!  I can’t believe I will have been there for a year this summer).

But, his perfect cock beckoned…And who am I to refuse?  He’s the perfect size and shape and I love the way he tastes and smells…especially when he hasn’t showered yet.  YUM.  So, happily I obliged, and to my surprise and delight he…ah, finished…in probably under two minutes.

Now I know guys feel self-conscious when the come quickly and go out of their way to assert that this it not the norm.  Men go to great lengths to last “long enough.”

What do you think, ladies?  How long is “long enough,” and is it the same every time?  Personally, I think it’s hella sexy when a guy comes very quickly every once in awhile…it’s like the ultimate compliment to know that even after all this time, he can’t quite resist me.  It’s also a compliment to my head-giving abilities.  I mean, to turn him on that much, so fast?  I must know what I’m doing!

If this post made you want to go polish yourself off (or have someone do it for you), you might also enjoy:

  • http://www.evilwoobie.com evilwoobie

    You go, girl! I’m a big fan of ‘quickie BJ’ and I think it’s awesome when guys come fast through bj then take it easy after (when it’s your turn).

    thumbs up!

  • http://honeyandlance.com Honey

    Well, I did get my turn – not before work obviously, but later! It’s definitely one of the benefits, evilwoobie!

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  • http://www.thedateabledork.com The Dateable Dork

    Honey – I totally agree. I think it’s a huge compliment when a guy comes quickly, especially during a BJ… as long as it’s not every time. Sex is a different story, though – I get kind of annoyed if they come too fast because it cuts the whole experience short.

    As for the BF *still* not being able to resist you after all these years – awesome!! You must be doing something right. : )

    The Dateable Dork´s last blog post…Focusing on all the wrong things

  • http://20-forty.com/ lisaq

    haha…did you just call me a perv? 😉 I completely agree. There are some situations, especially during a blowjob, when quicker is better.

    lisaq´s last blog post…Why Would I Want to Use a Glass Sex Toy?

  • http://mysecrethobby.blogspot.com/ Kiera

    I like to drag a blow job out although a quick one is nice from time to time especially in tricky locations. As long as he isn’t consistently quick, he can’t come too soon in my books!

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  • http://honeyandlance.com Lance

    Have to agree here, from the male perspective, you definitely want to mix it up and go fast and intense every once in awhile, especially if it’s a pre-going-to-work BJ. I have yet to meet a chick that didn’t appreciate that.

    Lance´s last blog post…Takeways from Vegetarian and No-Alcohol Experiments

  • http://casualencounters.com/blog/ Janak

    Two minutes in heaven is better than one minute in heaven.

    Janak´s last blog post…Weekly Roundup – Top 10 Casual Sex Links from Around the Web

  • http://honeyandlance.com Lance

    Was thinking about this again today…I think it’s equally cool when the chick does the same thing, ie she comes really REALLY fast esp. in situations like this. Feels just like a compliment.

  • http://honeyandlance.com Honey

    I agree…poor BF, though, typically he has to wait 5-10 minutes with the vibrator AFTER we’ve had sex…

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  • http://casualencounters.com/blog/ Janak

    Curse that vibrator and its mechanically alien prowess.

    Janak´s last blog post…Weekly Roundup – Top 10 Casual Sex Links from Around the Web

  • http://honeyandlance.com Honey

    Bless the vibrator, Janak. It’s the only thing that’s ever gotten me off.


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  • http://dadshouseblog.com dadshouse

    Stinky goat cheese and tangerine-flavored vinegar I get any old day of the week. A quality blowjob? Those are a rarity. (Hell, bjs are a rarity for a single dad like me.)

    Love that you love giving them, and talking about it with us!

    dadshouse´s last blog post…Craig Ferguson is Funny

  • http://www.used-tire.net Used Tires

    I think it definitely damages an Man’s Ego, but…. as long as he knows that you don’t mind and that you are actually happy about it, then it won’t damage his ego. I think all he needs to know is that you are happy about it, and he will be too. At least that’s my experience.

    Till then,


  • http://dadshouseblog.com dadshouse

    I hope you guys find time to post more often – I love reading both of you, and miss seeing new posts!

    dadshouse´s last blog post…Wingin’ It With an Ex

  • http://www.pualingo.com/ Pua Lingo

    Wow, that was pornographic! :) There’s definitely a balance between coming too soon and making every coupling a marathon session.

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    Some girls like to take their time, while I definitely have heard some girls say that anything over 5 min is just rude…