I found this interesting survey on The Frisky: Should your date ask permission before leaning in for the first kiss?
Before I blog my answer, The Frisky did their survey because apparently Barack Obama asked Michelle for permission before kissing her on their first date. This was over Baskin-Robbins ice cream. I thought that was pretty interesting. When I checked the survey results, 53% of respondents said no, he should just read my signals and make a decision vs. 24% that said yes, that’s what a gentleman would do.
I think that asking for permission before the first kiss is pretty wussy. For one, if you can’t read the signals, it shows a lack of social intelligence, and two, it shows a lack of confidence. Woman want to be kissed, and they want the first kiss to be exciting. If you ask permission, you risk defusing that excitement. Just go for it, dude.
Of course, leading up to the first kiss, make sure you run your game and kino escalate properly. If you think you HAVE to ask for permission, you’re probably not there yet.
Obama Tells Us What Romance REALLY Is
This quote from Obama, about romance, was money:
What I realize as I get older is that Michelle is less concerned about me giving her flowers than she is that I’m doing things that are hard for me…carving out time. That to her is proof, evidence that I’m thinking about her. She appreciates the flowers, but to her romance is that I’m actually paying attention to things that she cares about, and time is always an important factor.
People, not only is Barack Obama our next president, but he’s giving us relationship advice. And guess what? It’s PURE GOLD. This is the one thing that EVERYONE needs to work on in a relationship. Compromise and making time. Boom, there it is. If you do those two things, you’re solid.
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