Author Archive for Honey
Honey's main interests are online dating, long distance dating, and long term relationships. She met her boyfriend on MySpace and they have been exclusive since their first date over three years ago. Currently they live in Tempe, Arizona. Honey graduated with her PhD in Composition and Rhetoric in May 2009.
By Honey on Dec 23, 2009 in Health | comments(1)
Well, much like last year, I’ve been sick! About 5 folks from our office all got hit at the same time. So I’ve been drinking gallons of orange juice and eating nothing but bread – two things I usually avoid but which have been the only things I can stomach for the last 5 days. I’m finally on the mend enough to come in to work today and put out the inevitable fires that sprung up in my absence and which, apparently, I am the only one able to solve. The joys of being utterly indespensible, eh?
But I get to leave at 3 today, and Jake is probably leaving early as well. Then we have a four-day weekend, followed next week by a five-day weekend when we go to Vegas
for New Year’s! I’m totally stoked.
By Honey on Dec 14, 2009 in Dating | comments(2)
Lance and I talk a lot about compromise – what it means to adapt your own interactions to cater to someone else’s love style, for example, or being supportive of your partner’s desire for a dog even though you hate them. Here’s another example of Honey and Jake: Compromise in Action.
Jake hates household chores.
Now, I know what you’re thinking, right? Is there anyone out there who likes household chores? I can think of one friend, but only one. Continued
By Honey on Dec 11, 2009 in Life | comments(5)
My job interview for the faculty position was Thursday, and while it’s very tough (for me, anyway) to gauge people’s reactions when I can’t see them, I can say that I dropped the names I wanted to drop, mentioned the aspects of my skills I wanted to mention, and we’ll see what happens! When I e-mailed my dissertation chair and told him about the interview, he immediately cleared space in his schedule so we could chat on the phone, nail down my talking points, and practice some questions, and it was definitely a big help.
They say they’ll get back to me in a week or two and let me know if I’m advancing on to the next round or not. I’m solid either way because 1) it was such an unbelievable coup to get interviewed at all that I’m riding high, and 2) if I don’t advance then it means that Jake is free to look for a job out of state in the new year. Either outcome is pretty awesome by me! Continued
By Honey on Dec 7, 2009 in Relationships | comments(0)
I thought that Lance’s recent post on How to Qualify a Relationship was excellent, and his description if himself as a “bursty” worker being one of the things that makes the quality time love style very difficult for him was a worthy insight. So worthy that it got me thinking about my own work style.
You see, where for Lance,
My brain gets really tired each day, way before my body or my emotional center runs out of energy. WAY before. I have a finite amount of this mind energy, and that energy runs out after 3-4 hours. After that, I’m basically a zombie mentally. Once I’m in this low energy state, I have to recharge, and I do that by napping, reading, watching TV, or otherwise fucking around in private.
I do not experience these types of creative energy spikes with any regularity. Sure, if I have a really long day at work or am under stress about something specific, then I might get emotionally/intellectually tired. But for the most part, I wake up fairly early and chug along at a steady pace all day (Lance would say it’s the Virgo in me). Continued
By Honey on Dec 4, 2009 in Featured, Life | comments(4)
So it is awesome news all around these days (sorry for neglecting you, my peeps!). First Jake and I went to Illinois to visit his grandparents for Thanksgiving and then I have been catching up because it is the busiest time of year for me at work. I hate that my busiest time is around the holidays, which are supposed to be about relaxation and fun, but what can you do? Anyway, that’s not the good news – here’s a recap of recent events:
Illinois was good. As I’ve mentioned previously, Jake and I avoid his parents and brother, but we got some QT with the grandparents, aunt, and cousin. The biggest surprise (at least for Jake, I suspected this would happen and tried to tell him but he didn’t believe me) was that the family decided to give us our Christmas gifts while we were actually there, to watch us opening them. Continued
By Honey on Nov 23, 2009 in Relationships | comments(0)
They say that the holidays are a time for family – well, maybe. Sort of. Though our relationships with our families are far from typical. Is there anyone who is typical?
This weekend my best friend from grad school was in town because her boyfriend’s parents live here, and they ended up staying with us because his parents didn’t have room (and also because we’re obviously cooler to stay with). Sarcasm and alcohol, just like old times…
Oh, and their 6 1/2 month old baby.
He was very adorable (if periodically cranky) and I shocked everyone when they went out for coffee and left me with him – apparently she and her boyfriend were deciding how much they’d bet that the baby was screaming when they walked back in…but he was sound asleep in my arms. Awww. Continued