Author Archive for Honey

Honey's main interests are online dating, long distance dating, and long term relationships. She met her boyfriend on MySpace and they have been exclusive since their first date over three years ago. Currently they live in Tempe, Arizona. Honey graduated with her PhD in Composition and Rhetoric in May 2009.

I Never Say I Need Him

Countdown – less than three months until Jake and I get hitched! The invitations are in production now and should be here in two weeks. This is really happening! But, this isn’t about that. It’s actually just a quick something that Jake said to me the other day that I wanted to get your take on.

Jake said that while he tells me sometimes (not frequently, but not infrequently either) how important it is that I support his decisions. Whenever he is stressed about something, he Cheap Jewelry Canada sanctified always asks if he has my support. Sometimes this is emotional, like when he was scared to leave his job to start his own company. Sometimes it is financial – now that he doesn’t make a salary, sometimes he can’t predict his income and isn’t sure he’ll get paid by a client in time to pay one of our bills. Whatever he asks for, I always give it, of course!

But…he says that I never really tell him that I need his support. Continued

Wedding Planning

Hi, everyone!  Just wanted to touch base and let you know that a) everything’s going great, and b) predictably, wedding planning is slowly becoming the center of my life.  Fortunately, however, Jake is Pandora Charms Canada MUCH more into the wedding than I am, so my primary jobs have actually been to be a receptive audience to the HOURS of online research that he puts into every decision, and to rein him in whenever he starts going overboard (which is pretty often).  So far, we have decided:

  • We’re getting married on a cruise ship before embarkation, then everyone can join us on the cruise or leave before we do.  This means that the reception is cake-and-punch and that we’ve already booked the honeymoon as well.  Very exciting, and cheaper than just the traditional ceremony/reception packages that we priced.
  • We will register for a select few items (which will need to be shipped to our house so we don’t pay duty on them) but our primary goal is going to be a down payment fund. Continued

Honey: I’m Engaged!

Thought that since I’d shared so much of my journey with Jake with all of you, I’d share this as well!  Jake and I got engaged on Friday, March 18.  I kind of knew it was coming but I’d been wrong a few times before so I was trying not to get too excited.  But now I’m thrilled!

It started when he planned a trip to Rocky Point, Mexico for us.  We drove down on Wednesday (about a 4.5 hour drive) and came back on Sunday.  We stayed at a resort called the Sonoran Sun (picture after the jump): Continued

Honey on Sexual Compatibility

Hey, all, Lance asked if I would come out of my bloggy retirement briefly to weigh in on sexual compatibility and what it means for Jake and I.  Happy to do it!

First of all, I don’t think physical attraction is the same thing as compatibility.  There have been times I thought it was, right up until the moment I started to get down and dirty with a guy, only to not be into it at all or (even worse) repulsed by the whole thing.  Which is not to say that the guy was repulsive, or that he wanted to do anything repulsive, only to say that for whatever reason (pheromones, maybe?) we just didn’t do anything for each other at all. Talk about awkward, ugh. Continued

Honey’s Greatest Hits: The Guy Who Said I Gave Him Herpes

This is probably one of my funniest dating stories in retrospect, though it was not funny in the least at the time!  As I mentioned in a recent post, after Lance and I broke up “officially,” I hooked up with two guys in 24 hours.  One of these guys was someone I had known for about 2 years who I had always had something of a mutual crush with.  He was by then working for an academic publishing house, though I’d met him when he was a graduate student in history.  His name was Evan.

Since we’d known each other for some time, and also because he knew I was moving, it was pretty clear (even without telling him all the deets of my recent breakup) that this was a pure hookup situation, NSA sex.  We used a condom, it didn’t break, nothing weird about the encounter at all except he did speak Portuguese fluently and there was a lot of sexy talk I didn’t understand but which turned me on pretty effectively.  A couple of weeks after our date, I moved to Arizona.  Then he called me a month later,

“Is there anything about your sexual past you need to share with me?” were the first words out of his mouth. Continued

Honey and Lance – The Breakup

No, not me leaving the blog – the breakup when we were dating! :-)  Since I soon won’t be posting anymore, I thought that I’d tell you all the story from my perspective (I’d be pretty interested to hear Lance’s as well).

Lance told the story of the original pickup here, and for the most part it’s pretty accurate.  The only mitigating factors worth mentioning:

  • I was bored stiff on the date I was on.  He was a guy in my yoga class that I’d been friendly with for over a year, and I always thought he was pretty boring.  Turns out I was right.
  • I don’t remember what Lance said when he walked up either, but I do remember that both my date and I were low on drinks and Lance bought me another beer and, like he said, didn’t say anything to my date at all.  I thought it was pretty studly ;-)
  • When he contacted me in the next day or so, he said that he thought my date was totally lame and that I could do better.  I agreed, and he asked me out.  Nice! Continued