By Lance on Aug 22, 2011 in Life | comments(26)
Here is what game for guys in their 30’s (and beyond) should look like.
Guys in their 30’s should be successful professionals and have lots of money. At least enough money to sustain a good lifestyle and a family (if you’re into the family thing). You’re either a working professional with a cool career or a small business owner, or both. Either way, you’re driven, ambitious, creative, and a badass.
If you’re single, it’s by choice, and you can always get girlfriends. Even if you live in a small town in the middle of nowhere, you have options. It is preferred to live in an area where there are plenty of intelligent men and women…I recommend cities on coasts.
You should not spend all your time running game in bars and clubs. That’s a hassle and you’re past all that. You do go out on special occasions, but the primary purpose of that should be the occasion itself.
By Lance on Aug 15, 2011 in Sex | comments(12)
I found Juliet Jeske’s post, Dating After Divorce In a City of Sluts, via the Evan Marc Katz blog. Jeske is a divorced comedian and artist in New York City. She’s starting over in the NYC dating scene and frustrated with how fast things move in the dating world. Her complaint is a common one, that sex happens too fast and guys want to get laid on the first date.
I’m a big believer in fast sex, before any kind of gf-bf relationshop has been established. There are good reasons for this, which I will address in a followup post. For now, let’s go with the assumption that guys want to have sex early and women get pissed when we do. What should Jeske do?
By Honey on Aug 13, 2011 in Marriage | comments(7)
Hi, everyone! Just wanted to touch base and let you know that a) everything’s going great, and b) predictably, wedding planning is slowly becoming the center of my life. Fortunately, however, Jake is Pandora Charms Canada MUCH more into the wedding than I am, so my primary jobs have actually been to be a receptive audience to the HOURS of online research that he puts into every decision, and to rein him in whenever he starts going overboard (which is pretty often). So far, we have decided:
- We’re getting married on a cruise ship before embarkation, then everyone can join us on the cruise or leave before we do. This means that the reception is cake-and-punch and that we’ve already booked the honeymoon as well. Very exciting, and cheaper than just the traditional ceremony/reception packages that we priced.
- We will register for a select few items (which will need to be shipped to our house so we don’t pay duty on them) but our primary goal is going to be a down payment fund. Continued
By Lance on Aug 8, 2011 in Relationships | comments(6)
After having had several LTR’s the past few years, I’ve got it figured out how a relationship works. Here it is.
Firstly, my simple model of evaluating a relationship is spot on. There are two components, Companionship and Sex, and I rate them on a scale of 1-10. For me, the sex has to be at least a 9 and the companionship a 6. If I have those two things at those levels I’m pretty much set. I don’t bother overthinking all the stuff that goes into a relationship (communication, commonalities, pets, religion, etc) because those are details and the details are malleable.