Archive for June, 2009

Get Fit and Improve Your Dating Prospects

This is a guest post from Jackie, aka The Girl With No Name. Jackie is a popular video blogger based in Vancouver, Canada, and she specializes in fitness and achieving fitness at home. She’s also a fantastic Twitterer and her stream was so popular that she won the 2009 Shorty Award for best sports Tweets–beating out @lancearmstrong! I’ve been communicating with Jackie over Twitter and email for a couple of months now and I finally managed to pry a guest post out of her. True to form, this is a vlog that reviews some awesome tips for working out at home and why getting in fantastic shape will help you improve your dating prospects. Enjoy.

So you date. Do you date at the level you’d like to date? And by that I mean are the people showing interest in you as hot as you’d like? If not, well I know one very solid way to raise your game. Get fit!! Seriously kids, it raises your confidence level as well as your physical appearance. And are hot guys and hot babes ever attracted to confident, fit people.

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Good News Follows Good News: Or, LinkedIn Works!?

Apparently the universe is apologizing for my terrible weekend.  First, the BF was able to verify with his supervisor that a) his company isn’t going to do any layoffs, and b) even if they were, his position wouldn’t be in jeopardy.  Awesome!  So he’s going to try for a little work/life balance and we’ll see how that goes.

Second, remember how I’d been trying to decide whether I should go back to school or take on some freelance work?  Well, in this post I mention that I’d decided to go for the school thing, since (as DD tells me repeatedly) it’s a) a kickass opportunity to try something new and different, that is b) also super-cheap.  I applied last week (after the pleasant surprise that employees don’t have to pay application fees) and am admitted – as soon as I can find the time for my previous university to send over my proof of MMR then I’m good to go!

Side note: it’s okay for me to WORK here, directly with the students, with no proof of MMR, but when it comes to taking classes – whoa!  Somebody better make sure that girl had her shots!  Um, what? Continued

Being Tall vs. Great Game? Take the Game.

Penelope Trunk wrote a provocative post today, about how tall people are generally more successful at work and make more money. In her post, she begins by arguing that good looking people do better in life than not-good-looking people. No doubt. You can’t refute that. Midway through her post, though, she switches gears and says that tall people are the folks who are more successful.  She is equating tall people to good looking people. Okay, I guess P-Trunk likes tall dudes.

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Crummy Weekend

So the weekend actually turned out kind of crummy.  On Friday, the BF completely forgot that he was going to come home early and cook me dinner, so he came home after 9 p.m.  I’d finally given up and had a bowl of sweet pea soup around 8:45 but ended up going to bed hungry.  The BF promised that he’d make the fish for lunch the next day.

Well he woke up with a list of errands that he wanted to run…he didn’t get out of bed until after noon, so I asked whether we were still having lunch.  Then there was a disagreement about how to cook the fish…he did end up doing it on the grill (which was my preference) but between that and the fact that making lunch didn’t give him enough time to get one of the most important errands (having some dress shirts tailored) done and also we got to the car dealership to pick up our floor mats and wheel covers 20 minutes before they said they would close…and they were closed. Continued

Away We Go

This has been a strange week.  Per our recent agreement, the BF slept in the spare bedroom on two nights because he’d taken the “good” sleeping pills and didn’t want to reduce me to a hysterical, sleepless mess like he has in the past with his insane excessive snoring.  So I feel like I am missing my snuggles!  Fortunately, the BF is going to come home early tonight (which means before 8 p.m.) and cook me fish on the grill.  Yum, I can’t wait!

I also didn’t see as much of him this week because I went with a dozen or so ladies from the alum club to see a sneak preview of a movie that opens today called Away We Go.  I thought this movie was excellent – do yourselves a favor and go see it.  Don’t be fooled by the description – it was written by Dave Eggers, whose memoir, A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius, comes pretty darn close to living up to its title.  In fact, once the credits started rolling and I saw he’d written it, I felt pretty dumb for not recognizing his writing 5 minutes into the movie.  Which is what I said after the movie and none of the other ladies knew who Dave Eggers was.

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How Much Do I Invest in Someone Else?

For those of you who haven’t been following the sometimes vociferous debates in response to Evan Marc Katz’s latest two posts, do yourselves a favor and check them out.  I’m a huge fan of strong opinions but was a little shocked to be told that my dating/relationship style was “selfish” and “toxic,” so I decided to think a little bit more about where my attitudes toward dating come from.  One of the other commenters, Kenley, writes

The truth is being a great date or partner is about balance. You have to be both selfish AND selfless…the tricky part is figuring out when to give your needs/wants/desires priority vs when to give the other person’s needs/wants/desires priority. And, I think that balance is different for different people.

Not only do I think that’s the truth of it, I know that for me, how much to give and how much to take has been a huge struggle because of my experiences growing up. Continued