By Honey on Apr 27, 2009 in Relationships | comments(14)
No, I don’t necessarily mean the talk as in, the “where is this relationship going” talk that every gal is desperate to have and every guy is desperate to avoid (at least that’s how the stereotype goes…when I was actively dating it seemed to me that every guy wanted to be exclusive by date three and I was like, um…).
No. I’m talking about your talk. It seems to me that for everyone, there is something about themselves that, for one reason or another, they do not feel comfortable revealing to just anyone. Usually this discomfort stems from the fact that whatever the “secret” is, it has the potential to negatively influence someone’s decision about whether or not you are long-term material. I’m talking about that something you don’t feel comfortable revealing until you’ve been dating for awhile so it’s like you are telling a friend who will stay with you through it all…but that you feel dishonest for not revealing sooner because it is like you are tricking the other person, or at least manipulating them by waiting until they feel attached to you before springing the trap.
For me, it is the fact that I stand a 50% chance of becoming quadriplegic by the time I am in my forties.
By Honey on Apr 24, 2009 in Featured, Relationships | comments(14)
Welcome, everyone! It seems like the last couple of weeks have brought in some new readers. Hooray! We’re glad you’re joining the party and hope you’ll all come back and comment more often. Since we do have some new folks among us, I thought that I’d tell you all a little bit about the BF and me and link you to some of my favorite posts about us. Read on…
By Lance on Apr 23, 2009 in Dating | comments(14)
After reading the latest from one of my favorite bloggers, the Dateable Dork, about her recent man trouble, I thought I’d fire off some of my own rejection stories for fun and amusement. Yes, even players get the Heisman. Which is totally okay. DD, I hope in some way this makes you feel better.
So, as I’ve mentioned recently, I broke up with my now-ex-girlfriend Megan about a month ago. That means Lance is single and available. I’ve gone on exactly three dates in the last month and I got next’ed after all three. Pretty shitty. I’ll be completely honest here…my game blows nuts right now and I’ve been lazy about developing prospects. This is all by choice and I’m totally fine with the fact that my dating life is mediocre at present. I’ll explain why at the end.
Without further ado, here is me getting shut down:
By Honey on Apr 22, 2009 in Relationships | comments(14)
All righty, peeps – I am about to ask your advice about something which has me genuinely torn, and while it doesn’t directly affect my relationship, it certainly has all sorts of possibilities to do so. The reason I’m torn is because I feel like there are two things I want more or less equally, and in some ways they are intertwined and in others they are in direct competition with each other.
Ready to weigh in on my life? Here goes… Continued
By Honey on Apr 21, 2009 in Featured, Game | comments(10)
So last week at work I sent out an e-mail blast to all of our graduate students advocating the dossier management service Interfolio. Essentially, you can upload any documents you want (including confidential letters of recommendation that your recommenders upload to your account themselves via a secure link) and then when you apply to a position that wants a dossier, you can select via checkboxes which documents/letters you want sent, and Interfolio does it for you. This is nice because you don’t have to print out everything yourself or worry about where the nearest post office is.
I highly recommend this service. Continued
By Lance on Apr 13, 2009 in Health | comments(19)
Argh! I’ve had the worst writer’s block for the last two weeks. The reason: Megan and I broke up for real and it’s f’ed up my creative process. Much more to that story…I’ll try to cover in other posts.
To bust the writing slump, I thought I’d write an easy post about the conclusion of two recent personal projects, namely, how I went vegetarian for a month and how I stopped drinking for 2.5 months.