Archive for October, 2008

Into-Me-See: A Couple’s Guide to Intimacy

Everyone catch that pop culture reference from the greatest tv show of all time?  SATC, bitchez!

All right then, moving on.  I was intrigued by Lance’s treatment of intimacy, what it means, why we crave it, and whether it is necessary.  This reminded me not only of the title of the fake book from Sex and the City when Samantha and her boyfriend go to couple’s counseling because he has a small dick, but also of the moment in that show where Miranda is describing to Carrie how her favorite thing to do on a Saturday night is her boyfriend’s laundry.  Then, in the next episode, their relationship is in jeopardy and when Carrie says, Continued

Why Is Kezia Telling Us To Buy Drinks?

I had to blog about this. I found this YouTube video via Seduction Chronicles, and in it, Kezia, a female dating coach, talks about the right way for guys to buy girls drinks. She says that if a guy doesn’t offer to buy a drink within the first 10′ of a new interaction, he comes off as cheap, rude, or selfish. Listen at the 1:30 mark:


What Is Intimacy, Anyway?

Since I’m a big proponent of casual and NSA sex, I hear all the time that with casual sex you can’t achieve intimacy. I hear this in person, via email, and when reading blog posts. This got me to thinking, what is intimacy, anyway? And, why do we want it?

BTW, just recently, two of my blogging friends published posts where they talk about intimacy, see here and here.

Let’s just jump right in. I’ll attempt to define intimacy and what it does for me, and I want to invite all of our readers to attempt their own definitions, too.

When I think of intimacy, I think of that squishy, cuddly area of a relationship when couples talk about Deep Life Things, share secrets, and generally get to know each other on a super personal level. An intimate level. Continued

I Met My Girlfriend On

Peeps, in case you didn’t notice, I have a girlfriend. Yup. I was about due for one of those. I’ll write a post or two and tell you how it went down. We just hit our two month anniversary and things are cruising along.

I Hate

I moved back to my hometown in June and immediately fired up my account. I hate Match, but the market for hot women is decent here, and I wanted to supplement my regular in-field game with some online stuff.

I had a flirtation with a 32-year-old MILF. Continued

Help! I’m Getting Laid Too Much!

Dear Lance,

I’m 34 and a working professional. I have a great career, a nice house, a Lexus, and everything that I want at this point in my life. I also have a great girlfriend. We’ve been seeing each other for almost a year and she’s absolutely great. Smart, sexy, terrific sense of humor, active, and we share the same values, religious and otherwise. I think the world of her and we’ve even talked about marriage as a possibility in the not-too-distant future. She’s slightly younger than me, age 28.

The problem is this. I’m getting laid way too much. My girlfriend wants sex constantly, like every single time we hang out, which is like 4-5 times per week. And it’s not just the frequency that’s a problem, it’s the length of the individual sessions…sometimes she’ll want to go for hours, with her getting off 6-7 times, and then another 2-3 times in the morning. As you can imagine, this is exhausting work, and I don’t get to sleep much when we spend the night together.


Falling Asleep While Having Sex?

All right, so it wasn’t quite that bad, but this is a pretty embarrassing tale nonetheless.

(zzzz…..) Continued